Happy Holidays!

Merry Christmas!  I hope you will be surrounded by loved ones and filled with gratitude this holiday season.


A person’s worth

A person’s worth is contingent upon who he is, not upon what he does, or how much he has. The worth of a person, or a thing, or an idea, is in being, not in doing, not in having.  Alice Mary Hilton

How do we determine the worth of ourselves?  Our loved ones?  Our friends and family?

During the holidays we are constantly bombarded with demands to buy… things.  Advertisements, radio ads, commercials, and flyers to purchase all sorts of stuff.  We are encouraged to buy extravagant gifts, often times spending more money than we should on gifts that our friends and family may or may not need or appreciate. But is that the reason we love our family?  What they have or what they give us?  Do we love them for the things that they do for a living? We love our family and friends for being themselves. Sometimes they can drive us crazy, but we still love them.  We care about them through thick and thin, not because they give us beautiful, expensive gifts. With the exception of the hideous sweater that’s 3 times too big or small that some distant aunt always feels the need to send. Our loved ones’ worth is in being, not in what they offer us or what they do or how much they have, just in being themselves.


We don’t always know what makes us happy.  We know, instead, what we think SHOULD.  We are baffled and confused when our attempts at happiness fail… We are mute when it comes to naming accurately our own preference, delights, gifts, talents. The voice of our original self is often muffled, overwhelmed, even strangled by the voices of other peoples’ expectations.  The tongue of the original self is the language of the heart. – Julia Cameron

Over the past several weeks, my life has had a lot of turmoil introduced.  And I’m a pretty stable person, so I don’t handle turmoil particularly well.  One of the things I’ve been thinking about a lot since the holidays are coming up is happiness.  What makes me happy?  What makes our loved ones happy?

And the answer that kept coming to my head was…. a blank.  I had no idea what makes me happy.  I know what my parents want for me to be happy, my friends, my colleagues. I’m not talking about going to a funny movie, or hanging out with my friends, or those types of activities that make each of us happy.  I’m talking about the big picture, fundamental things that make each of us happy.  And at my age, I think I should know what makes ME happy.  That’s something that no one else can do for you.  I am the only person that will be affected by this.

So how do you know when you’re happy?  Is it the number of times a day you laugh or smile?  Is it getting through the day without wanting to destroy things due to frustration?  How do you know what makes you happy?


Nothing new can come into your life without the field of gratitude. Rev. Michael Beckwith

It is so easy for us to get caught up in all the negative thoughts we have about things that are in our life. Every new thing brings in new obligations and hassles.  We forget that there are so many things for which we should be grateful. So many people have suffered losses – friends, family, jobs, etc. Especially at this time of year.

What new things have come into your life?  What changes have happened in your life that have cause you to change yourself and the way you think?

What has brought gratitude into your life?


To dare is to lose ones footing momentarily. To not dare is to lose oneself.
Soren Kierkegaard

Today I was daring. I stopped my procrastination, my laziness and did something that was a long time coming. But even though it was daring, and pushed me forward on a path I want to go down, I still wonder, which “me” is this path bringing me towards? Is it the right me?