Meta

I went to a yoga class for the first time in two weeks. Wow. Amazing.
The meditation was meta, filling yourself with loving kindness. And when you have filled your heart an your mind with meta loving kindness, it flows out to your loved ones. And then to your friends and acquaintances. Eventually out to strangers and everyone you meet.

May you/I be filled with loving kindness
May you/I be well
May you/I be at peace and at ease
May you/I be happy

Malasana- garland pose- felt really good. It made me feel calm, connected, and just more myself. I think this is a sign I need to work on hip openers, grounding work, and the root of things.

Salabhasana-locust pose- felt Fine in the pose, but as soon as we released it I had a sharp pain above my left eye. I wonder what that means?

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What I really want…?

What I really want is to connect.  My head with my heart, because they feel like they’re orbiting completmentary but opposite each other right now; with myself; with my purpose in life; with other people. I also know I have to find myself, get an idea of what I really want, before I can truly connect with other people. You have to love yourself and make yourself happy before you can share that happiness with other people. That is the big point that’s tripping me up. I know that finding yourself, getting in touch with yourself, is a lifelong journey.  However, at this point in time, I feel like I’m not on the path, not even in the sidelines.  I’m standing in the shadows, lost and not knowing where to go. Putting in the time and energy, going through all the dark recesses of your psyche to deal with your baggage… is time consuming and painful. Meking myself do that without an external push has been extremely difficult. I’m working on it in fits and starts, but still haven’t really gotten into the groove of it.  

I’ve also realized that the thing I want most is the thing that I’m most scared to do. (Isn’t that the way it always is though?)  The things you want the most involve the most risk. There is the highest risk of rejection, of failure, of success and happiness. I’m terribly scared of actually connecting, letting people see the real me.  What if they don’t like me?  Will they judge me?  Not accept me?  I know these are common fears that most people face.  Then again, most people aren’t in my head, experiencing it the way I do. I want to belong to something, feel that sense of community, but I’m scared to put myself out there and actually let people see me. My entire life I’ve yearned for that sense of belonging, and its finally coming to a head at this point, when I can figure it out on my own. 

For the past 9 months, every single thing seems like its been a challenge.  Nothing has come easy. Each day was a roller coaster, I would wake up and feel light, happy, energized, optimistic.  But was never able to maintain that feeling due to the external forces and pressures of everyday life. Today I feel like I might be starting to move in the right direction.     

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For a brief moment, my heart feels empty, but in a good way. Clean, unhindered. Not soaring, not being dragged down with aching.
I want to savor this moment and take as much as I can from it. Whatever I can possibly learn from not feeling a strong pull for once.

Enjoying the emptiness

For a brief moment, my heart feels empty, but in a good way. Clean, unhindered. Not soaring, not being dragged down with aching.
I want to savor this moment and take as much as I can from it. Whatever I can possibly learn from not feeling a strong pull for once.

How to Find Happiness

Great blog post from a few years ago.  How am I just stumbling upon this now?

 

How to Find Happiness: 7 Timeless Tips from the Last 2500 Year

by HENRIK EDBERG

What do you want?

A great job?

A fulfilling relationship?

Go sailing around the Pacific for a few years in your very own luxurious boat?

Or just to get along better with yourself?

Perhaps you want one of more of those things. But beneath those and many common wishes, if you take it a step further, often lies a wish to find happiness.

One good way to find a few useful, life-improving and time-tested tips is to look back. To look way back through history. To find ideas that have arisen in minds over and over the last few thousand years. Here are seven such ideas about how you can find happiness. Maybe you´ll find them helpful.

And if you want to learn much more about inner happiness then have a look at my 12-week Self-Esteem Course.

1. You choose.

Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.
Abraham Lincoln

Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.
Marcus Aurelius Antoninus

The world of those who are happy is different from the world of those who are not.
Ludwig Wittgenstein

How your view yourself and your world are conscious choices and habits. The lens you choose to view everything through determines how you will interpret what is happening. And from your interpretation you act. And all of this becomes your life.

You can choose to find happiness in small, everyday things. You can choose to interpret what happens in a positive way. Or in a negative way.

And your choices controls much of how much happiness your will find and create in your life.

2. Focus on the present, not yesterday or tomorrow.

When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.
Helen Keller

The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise grows it under his feet.
James Oppenheim

You only have now. And now. And now. Yesterday is a memory and you cannot change it. Tomorrow is just a fantasy in your mind right now. So live more in the now, focus on the present moment and today. Think and worry less about yesterday and tomorrow. Otherwise you might miss a great deal of happiness that is available to you right now.

3. Don’t forget to be grateful.

Man is fond of counting his troubles, but he does not count his joys. If he counted them up as he ought to, he would see that every lot has enough happiness provided for it.
Fyodor Dostoevsky

We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.
Frederick Keonig

Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.
Marcel Proust

One of the simplest and quickest ways to turn a negative and sour mood into a more positive one is to be grateful.

A few things you can feel gratitude for are for instance: The sunshine and the weather. Your roof. Your health. A good TV-show, a movie or a song.Your friends, family, co-workers and just about anyone walking down the street.

Just try if for a minute and see how it changes how you feel. And it’s a win/win solution. You feel great because you are grateful about your world and the people you are grateful for feel great too because they feel appreciated. So don´t forget about gratitude or you may forget about the happiness that is already in your life.

4. Help someone else find happiness.

Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.
Buddha

If you want happiness for an hour — take a nap.
If you want happiness for a day — go fishing.
If you want happiness for a year — inherit a fortune.
If you want happiness for a lifetime — help someone else.
Chinese Proverb

Happiness is like a kiss. You must share it to enjoy it.
Bernard Meltzer

This is certainly one of the most popular ideas I’ve found about happiness. And it might sound clichéd and empty. But it works very well. When you make someone else happy – by, for example, helping them with something – you can sense, see, feel and hear it. And that happy feeling flows back to you. And then, if you’d like, you can boost you own ego by thinking something like: ”Wow, I really made him/her happy!”.

And since the Law of Reciprocity is strong there is another upside. People will feel like giving back to you. Or they might feel like helping/sharing it with someone else. And so the two – or more – of you keep spreading the happiness.

5. Get rid of a couple of your less valuable desires.

If thou wilt make a man happy, add not unto his riches but take away from his desires.
Epicurus

You can never get enough of what you don’t need to make you happy.
Eric Hoffer

That man is richest whose pleasures are cheapest.
Henry David Thoreau

If you want less instead of more, more, more then your desires are more likely to be fulfilled. And if you throw away a few of those desires that you may not really want or need that much anyway you’ll probably start to feel less stressed and worried. This is a calmer and better place to be to enjoy your day (tip #2) and to take the time discover the happiness that is already in your life (tip #3).

6. Do what you like to do.

Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.
Albert Schweitzer

Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.
Franklin D. Roosevelt

A pretty obvious one. But it’s still easy to trap yourself into doing what you don’t want to for many, many hours. And seldom do what you really love to do. And I guess this one ties into tip #1. You may not be able to choose to do what you want to do right now. Or for many hours each day or week. But you almost always have a choice to do more of what you really want to do. There is always time. Or time you can free up. You have a choice.

7. Or at least do something.

Action may not always bring happiness; but there is no happiness without action.
Benjamin Disraeli

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.
So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
Mark Twain

One of the best ways to not find happiness is just to hold yourself back and do nothing. Seldom show up. Paralyze yourself through over analysis. It’s not always easy to take action, it can be scary and hard and difficult. But if you don’t take action you’ll be missing out on a lot. Including many moments, people and experiences that can bring you a lot of happiness.

http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2007/09/26/how-to-find-happiness/

 

How to Find Happiness

Great Blog Post from a few years ago, how am I just stumbling upon this now? 

 

How to Find Happiness: 7 Timeless Tips from the Last 2500 Years

by HENRIK EDBERG


 

What do you want?

A great job?

A fulfilling relationship?

Go sailing around the Pacific for a few years in your very own luxurious boat?

Or just to get along better with yourself?

 

Perhaps you want one of more of those things. But beneath those and many common wishes, if you take it a step further, often lies a wish to find happiness.

One good way to find a few useful, life-improving and time-tested tips is to look back. To look way back through history. To find ideas that have arisen in minds over and over the last few thousand years. Here are seven such ideas about how you can find happiness. Maybe you´ll find them helpful.

And if you want to learn much more about inner happiness then have a look at my 12-week Self-Esteem Course.

1. You choose.

Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.

Abraham Lincoln

Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.

Marcus Aurelius Antoninus

The world of those who are happy is different from the world of those who are not.

Ludwig Wittgenstein

 

How your view yourself and your world are conscious choices and habits. The lens you choose to view everything through determines how you will interpret what is happening. And from your interpretation you act. And all of this becomes your life.

You can choose to find happiness in small, everyday things. You can choose to interpret what happens in a positive way. Or in a negative way.

And your choices controls much of how much happiness your will find and create in your life.

 

2. Focus on the present, not yesterday or tomorrow.

When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.

Helen Keller

The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise grows it under his feet.

James Oppenheim

You only have now. And now. And now. Yesterday is a memory and you cannot change it. Tomorrow is just a fantasy in your mind right now. So live more in the now, focus on the present moment and today. Think and worry less about yesterday and tomorrow. Otherwise you might miss a great deal of happiness that is available to you right now.

 

3. Don’t forget to be grateful.

Man is fond of counting his troubles, but he does not count his joys. If he counted them up as he ought to, he would see that every lot has enough happiness provided for it.

Fyodor Dostoevsky

We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.

Frederick Keonig

Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.

Marcel Proust

 

One of the simplest and quickest ways to turn a negative and sour mood into a more positive one is to be grateful.

A few things you can feel gratitude for are for instance: The sunshine and the weather. Your roof. Your health. A good TV-show, a movie or a song. Your friends, family, co-workers and just about anyone walking down the street.

Just try if for a minute and see how it changes how you feel. And it’s a win/win solution. You feel great because you are grateful about your world and the people you are grateful for feel great too because they feel appreciated. So don´t forget about gratitude or you may forget about the happiness that is already in your life.

 

4. Help someone else find happiness.

Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give.

Eleanor Roosevelt

Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.

Buddha

If you want happiness for an hour — take a nap.

If you want happiness for a day — go fishing.

If you want happiness for a year — inherit a fortune.

If you want happiness for a lifetime — help someone else.

Chinese Proverb

Happiness is like a kiss. You must share it to enjoy it.

Bernard Meltzer

 

This is certainly one of the most popular ideas I’ve found about happiness. And it might sound cliched and empty. But it works very well. When you make someone else happy – by, for example, helping them with something – you can sense, see, feel and hear it. And that happy feeling flows back to you. And then, if you’d like, you can boost you own ego by thinking something like: ”Wow, I really made him/her happy!”.

And since the Law of Reciprocity is strong there is another upside. People will feel like giving back to you. Or they might feel like helping/sharing it with someone else. And so the two – or more – of you keep spreading the happiness.

 

5. Get rid of a couple of your less valuable desires.

If thou wilt make a man happy, add not unto his riches but take away from his desires.

Epicurus

 

You can never get enough of what you don’t need to make you happy.

Eric Hoffer

 

That man is richest whose pleasures are cheapest.

Henry David Thoreau

 

If you want less instead of more, more, more then your desires are more likely to be fulfilled. And if you throw away a few of those desires that you may not really want or need that much anyway you’ll probably start to feel less stressed and worried. This is a calmer and better place to be to enjoy your day (tip #2) and to take the time discover the happiness that is already in your life (tip #3).

 

6. Do what you like to do.

 

Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.

Albert Schweitzer

Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.

Franklin D. Roosevelt

 

A pretty obvious one. But it’s still easy to trap yourself into doing what you don’t want to for many, many hours. And seldom do what you really love to do. And I guess this one ties into tip #1. You may not be able to choose to do what you want to do right now. Or for many hours each day or week. But you almost always have a choice to do more of what you really want to do. There is always time. Or time you can free up. You have a choice.

 

7. Or at least do something.

Action may not always bring happiness; but there is no happiness without action.

Benjamin Disraeli

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.

So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.

Mark Twain

 

One of the best ways to not find happiness is just to hold yourself back and do nothing. Seldom show up. Paralyze yourself through over analysis. It’s not always easy to take action, it can be scary and hard and difficult. But if you don’t take action you’ll be missing out on a lot. Including many moments, people and experiences that can bring you a lot of happiness.

http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2007/09/26/how-to-find-happiness/

 

Thrill of the Chase

Sometimes I wonder if I only want something because I can’t have it.

I’ll chase the beautiful dream. And then once getting it, I slowly (ever so slowly it seems sometimes) I realize that what I thought I was getting is not what I truly got.  What I thought I was chasing, in reality is not what I was chasing at all. I only see what I wanted to see. 

And then the chase ended, and when the spoils were had, they were only fools gold.  

I guess just further proof that I need to look more closely at what I want and what I’m looking for so as not to be fooled.